What We Agree On
Difficult relationships can have a real impact on our health. If we are constantly facing arguments, sneering, judgement or worse from a relationship we have, it starts to take a toll.
In our divisive world it’s impossible to be in environments all the time where everyone is in agreement.
An internet search of what “Americans agree on”brought up some interesting results. While comparing lists I couldn’t help but notice they included polar opposite view points!
One list said 90% of Americans agree that we “feel pretty darn healthy”. While another list indicated that 90% of Americans believe that obesity is a serious health epidemic.
Before we try to find common ground on the complicated issues maybe it’s time we revisit some of the very basics. Maybe we can agree on our basic wants without having to discuss how to get there all the time.
We all want to enjoy health. It would be great if we could be the healthiest country in the world.
We all want a safe place to live where our kids can walk the streets free.
We don’t want someone micromanaging our lives no matter who it is. We want to be in charge of our own lives.
We want our kids to do better than us.
We want to take care of our land.
We want animals to be treated with respect and care.
We all respect the sanctity of life.
We should protect the weak and vulnerable.
We want to do the best thing for the best outcome.
It may be tough to read those statements without jumping to an opinion or an argument right away in our minds. Practice makes perfect. Resisting the urge to express the how, why and what can facilitate a common ground and maybe that’s what is more needed in the moment.
If we could spend a bit more time ruminating on the common outcomes we want before diving into how we think we can achieve them it will make our relationships a lot less difficult.
Simplify More often than not when I work with someone they tell me “there’s just too much information I don’t know where to start”. Agreed..There